Every parent has felt anger toward their children at one time or another. While there is such a thing as righteous anger, most of the anger I’ve given into as a parent was more the result of impatience, lack of grace and the feeling that my goals were being blocked. This week, I read Sam Crabtree’s excellent article on how to keep your cool when your children misbehave. Let me share some of the things I learned and add some other things that have helped me.
I missed the whole phenomenon of Duck Dynasty. I was out of the country when it made it’s splash on A&E. I’m not a huge fan of reality television and so I likely would have missed it anyway. And at this point, I’m not about to try and catch up. But I was touched by Kay Robertson’s honesty in recounting the struggles of her early marriage and how Jesus rescued her in the video by “I am Second”. There were three lessons that stood out to me.
I was reminded of this need for balance and discernment when I read David Murray’s excellent article on “Patient Parenting.” Murray claims to have started off as the second most impatient man in the world and if he really did try to teach his four- and five-year-old sons Hebrew as he writes, he may not be exaggerating. Writing from the perspective of an impatient (=zealous?) Christian, he urges the balance of patience in the parenting process.